Paris Hilton and My Big Break
April 14th, 2009Since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be an entertainer.
I love to sing and dance and act and make people laugh. And I think the best part of acting, is you get to experience all kinds of things and play all sorts of characters.
But growing up I never thought there would ever be a chance for me.
I started wearing hijab when I was about 8 years old. That sounds really young, I know.
No one really forced me to. It just sort of happened. I was an impressionable little kid.
The world is a very tempting place, and for me at least, hijab keeps me in check.
If I didn’t wear hijab, I may have realized my dream to become an actress, but maybe the things I would have taken part in would not have been all that suitable for a Muslim woman.
Wearing hijab makes me second guess things instead of taking them at face value. I often reflect on opportunities and what that would mean for me as a Muslim woman and how it would reflect on Islam as a whole.
Some of you may know my story of trying to break into the broadcast television industry, only to be told time and again, that my hijab would not be allowed because news reporters shouldn’t have “obvious” signs of religion.
While I was feeling down about my latest string of rejection letters I somehow ended up applying for a reality TV show. And I was cast for the Paris Hilton BFF reality show.
I was so close to going. I even had my passport renewed.
But the producer mentioned that if I came I would have no contact with my family for at least 6 weeks (My daughter was a year old at the time). And to top it off, he said he would be worried for my safety.
He thought Muslims would freak out if I was on the show and try to harm me.
After seeing a few snippets of the show, I’m kind of relieved it didn’t work out. I would have just been sitting out of every challenge.
But this incident made me realize that hmm… Muslim women (hijabis in particular) are never represented in mainstream movies and television shows, maybe its because we don’t ever try to get involved?
This show was willing to give me a chance, and the producer said they’d never had a hijabi even apply to any of their programs.
In the last year or so, I’ve made up my mind to break into the mainstream entertainment industry.
I’ve decided that hijab should never be a hindrance to achieving your goals, and that it if it’s meant to be, things will fall into place.
I now look back at all the rejection from television news as a good thing. I wouldn’t have started this blog or video series otherwise. And I never would have tried to get into the acting industry.
It also pushed me to get out of my comfort zone and actually use my journalism skills to do something I enjoyed (putting this blog together).
I often wonder if the reason I even got into broadcast is because it was the “acceptable” thing for a Muslim woman to do.
In college I would take extra curricular classes in theater or voice training. And those were my absolute favorite courses. But I never thought I could take it further than that.
After the Paris Hilton experience, I decided on a whim to send out my headshot and resume to dozens of talent agencies in Chicago. I didn’t know whether I would ever hear back. But, I knew that if I never tried, I would just sit wondering “what if”?
As of now two things have happened on my journey…
1. I became the first hijabi (at least in Chicago) to be represented by a few talent agencies.
2. I got my first acting gig in a training video for Accenture. I was actually shocked because I was asked to play a regular manager at the company. I wasn’t typecast or made into an “ethnic” character.
The next time you watch a show and say to yourself “Hey I could do that!” Realize, that it’s not just a dream out of reach.
You can do it, and it’s time as hijabis we make our presence known.
Behind the Screen is a weekly column written by Hijabtrendz Editor in Chief Mariam Sobh.

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Congratulations Mariam!
I really do feel for you as I have had my fair share of ‘rejections’ as well. Just keep doing what you are doing and keep charging ahead. If you want it bad enough, with Allah’s will anything is possible. I will pray for your highest success, Insha-Allah
Thank you Naziehah
I’d love to hear more about your own story too!
Assalaamualaikum-
I can so relate to you on this! I was a theater and voice person all of my life also. I actually wrote a blog about this not so long ago. It seems as though there are so many limits set on hijabis both from within ourselves and from outside. This may seem like an silly statement but I have to say it: Hijabis are humans. We have desires, aspirations and dreams like everyone else. We have God-given talents that we want to share with the world.
Do you know how many times I’ve heard someone say “If I wasn’t a hijabi I’d be a fill-in-the blank”? It really is time for us to live our lives out-loud and break down those barriers. As long as we maintain our dignity and God-consciousness we can’t lose!
This is a long way of saying You go Mariam! You’re beautiful and intelligent, Masha’Allah-the sky is the limit.
Samira.. yay! It’s great to know there are other hijabis on the same page
I agree that we often set limits on ourselves or let others define what our limits are.
That’s the spirit- you are talented masha’Allah so don’t let anything stop you! When I was little I wanted to be a ballerina…I wasn’t a very good dancer so I didn’t stick with it haha, but I always wonder, one day will there be hijabi ballerinas?
I always wondered why we don’t see hijabi reporters or broadcasters. Now I know why. I know it is an obvious display of religion, but it wouldn’t affect how you give the news. I guess it would affect how people choose to perceive it.
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Anyways, Im glad you keep trying to make the best out of it. You are talented and I hope things keep going well with your career
Sally… it’s ironic in a sense because I sometimes think other European countries have a much harder time accepting hijabis.. and yet places like the Netherlands have Muslim women hosting their own TV shows.
Clare… who knows what will happen in the future
I could totally see hijabi ballerinas in jilbabs haha.
Salam Aleykum,
you are so in my respect! I wasn’t wearing hijab, since my family is not religious and i never prayed back at home (Uzbekistan). I was Ironically i came to czech republic and felt like praying, eventually now for 5 month i am wearing hijab, although my parents are utterly against it. and now i have more challenge to make my career as i was always trying. In my country, although it is muslim country and here in Europe scarves are not5 welcome, but WE WILL OVERCOME! Nice point you made, we have to try better than just guessing “what if”. I am sure Allah will make it for us easier if we ask and keep working and trying.
Guzal I’m so sorry to hear your family is giving you a hard time. It’s tough to do hijab and without support it can be even harder. I pray that things get easier for you.
Just remember that we’re all in this together
this is so great to read
Assalaamu alaikum Sister,
Here in England Hijabis are not seen anywhere in the mainstream media. Presenting or portrayal in soaps(sitcoms) or movies is non existant. I think that positive portrayal of hijabis would only be positive to young muslim girls.
Providing a geniune display of ethics.
Insha Allah your work will be fruitfull.
salaam
Talib
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That’s great! Maybe we’ll get to see you on a TV show one day. Hijabi CSI? hehe
oh, do you have a myspace music account? I came across it. Keep it up! Here’s an indie singer/songwriter I love(she’s quite popular in my country). Her tunes are great. myspace.com/yunaroomrecords
Wow! Great blog, mA
and your story’s very interesting, kinda inspiring…in a way
Keep it up!
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Oh, I am so happy for you that you got that job, and especially that they cast you as a manager! I like that image so much it brings tears to my eyes masha’Allah!
wow, i wear an hijab and i’ve always wanted to be a journalist and i was worried about how i would be treated but this kinda boosted up my confidence, its a good thing that you held onto your dream. good luck in the future x